Month: October 2025

Some shine and some suck; but everyone has a personality. It’s how we show up.  Character, on the other hand, is who we are when it counts.

Something I’ve been thinking about is people’s character. We’re all familiar with the difference between character vs personality – this is just a reminder to pay attention.

I’ve noticed some changes lately in a few people who I’ve lost respect for over their apparent lack of character, which led me to write this post. It’s such a disappointment when that happens, but reveals a lot about the person. While both personality and character are distinct aspects that make us who we are; character is very different than personality and overall, more important. Personality can show up quickly but shift depending on mood.  Character is more stable, revealed over time and loyal.

Knowing the difference between character and personality is as important as knowing the difference between saying and doing, between doing the talk and doing the walk (which too many of us ignore or overlook, especially when judging character and intentions).

It’s easy to tell someone that you care, but if you don’t show it, it’s just words. Having strength of character is being mindful.  It’s about having backbone and knowing instinctively what is right.  Character doesn’t show right off the bat – it takes some time to realize a person’s moral compass.

A playful comparison on this is when we get dressed. We create a sort of armour or how we want to show up for that day. Your outfit is what people notice first, just like your personality which is your social signature.  But what is the fabric made of?  Quality? Durability? Character is the fabric that holds up over time.

Character is your inner compass – values, ethics, and moral backbone.

It’s revealed in how you treat others. Traits like honesty, integrity, and kindness fall under character.

Here’s another thing I’ve noticed and maybe you have too.  Sometimes the person you least expect to show up in a time of need is the one who surprises you the most by showing up first and going beyond expectations.  And that’s when a depleted faith in humanity is restored. Because there are a lot of characters the other kind out there!

Be someone even a dog would trust.  That’s the true measure of character.

What do you think?