Good riddance 2017!
If you take away the “o” in “Hello” that’s what kind of year it’s been.
That may sound harsh, but realistically it was the worst year of my life. It was not only a year full of world catastrophes and lives lost to the cruel irrational behaviour of degenerates on the news every other day, but for me it was a year chock full of deep seated challenge and great personal loss. But I did have three good things happen. I purchased a little piece of paradise in Palm Springs and one more dog to enjoy it with. I also reconnected with my childhood bestie all the way back to grade school in Montreal. Other than that….
I couldn’t wait for 2017 to end and didn’t make any New Year’s resolutions. Only reflections on the year left behind and what lies ahead. So after a quick toast to a new year and an off to bed early evening, it didn’t exactly start off as planned. I found my place in the sun but I’m writing this from bed where I’ve been for the third day in a row. I don’t remember being this sick. Coughing, listless and a bit dizzy when I get up although I managed to do a little better today. Nothing seems to be working. Feeling a little sorry for myself. There’s an epidemic going around California so I hear. Thank you very much. California welcomed me with open arms and a virus.
I’m hopeful things will get better because it’s only the second week of a new year. A fresh new start. And nothing can be worse than what I went through last year up until the very end I might add. I’m not looking for miracles or expecting that a new year will make all the sadness and madness erased from my memory (which as I’m writing this reminds me of the movie (“Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind”) but I plan to make positive changes, handle some things differently, learn from bad experiences (which is the only positive thing I can come up with from having had a bad experience), remove people from my life who have not been there for me when I most needed them (you know who you are) and find some peace of mind. And live stress free as long as I can.
I came out here with media credential to cover the Palm Springs Int’l Film Festival (which is one of the largest film festivals in North America with an incredible film lineup and movie stars in attendance for the celebratory annual Film Awards Gala, and a host of other exciting parties ). I saw the opening night movie but missed a bunch more I wanted to see but it doesn’t end until the 14th so we’ll see how I make out. I missed a screening of “Wonder Woman” with Gal Gadot in attendance, “The Polka King” with Jack Black in attendance and also Annette Benning was here for “Movie Stars don’t die in Liverpool”. Darn!
After the opening there was a reception at the Palm Springs Art Museum (I love that building) but I went straight home after the movie ended. I wasn’t planning to schmooze with the stars, it was enough seeing Steven Spielberg, Meryl Streep and Tom Hanks give a half hour talk about their very first collaborated film together. It was informal and very interesting. And let’s face it, they are the crème de la crème.
When I got to the theatre looking for the red carpet a man visiting from Boston went to his car, grabbed his sweatshirt and made me put it on after he heard me cough and decided I wasn’t covered up enough. That’s what gentlemen are like! I know because I was married to one. And you’ve got to love people from Boston.
Getting back to last year, I lost a total of six people. My husband, one of my best friends, a friend I only met last summer but who was awesome, and three other good people I knew. When people say “well you know we’re at that age when we start to lose people in our lives” I cannot accept that. If only because one of those people was a 38 year old woman, a man in his fifties who was senselessly murdered (wrong place, wrong time) and two others in their fifties. So you would never say to the friend of the 38 year old “well you know you’re at that age….” It just doesn’t make sense to me. Because as it so happens some people die young. It’s the god awful truth.
So if last year taught me anything at all it’s that you cannot control in many circumstances the way things turn out. This year I’ll try to calm down, listen to my intuition, make the most of the life I’ve been given and accept change the best I can. We need to still believe in love, have a sense of humour and family is the most important. And true friendship. Believe me you get to see who your real friends are when lightening strikes. It’s good to know.
So if you were given a chance to erase from your mind all the bad things that happened would you do it? You know what…as tempting as that sounds I don’t think I would play around with mother nature. These are life lessons and hard school knocks and apparently they are character building. I’m quite the character I’m told. And I know that this year no matter what, it has to be better than last!
Here’s to an upswing of a Bright New Year!