When thinking ahead isn’t always the smartest thing to so

The Five-Year Plan…

You know the question: “Where do you see yourself in five years?” Or perhaps even ten?

It’s a question we’re often asked, particularly during job interviews. We’re expected to have a plan, a direction, a clear idea of where we’re heading. But is thinking that far ahead always such a good thing?

Don’t get me wrong. Having dreams and aspirations is wonderful. Having something to work towards can give us purpose and motivation. But what happens when we don’t accomplish what we’ve set out to do? What happens when five years pass and we’re nowhere near where we thought we’d be? Do we feel disappointed? Do we feel we’ve somehow failed ourselves?

For example, imagine someone who says: “In five years, I want to be married, have a successful career, own a house, and be financially comfortable.”

Five years later, perhaps they’re single, working in a completely different field, renting an apartment…but happier than they’ve ever been. Have they failed? Of course not. Their life simply took a different path.

Life changes.
Circumstances change.
Our interests and priorities change.
Things we thought we wanted five years ago might not be what we want today.
Sometimes the unexpected turns out to be better than anything we could have planned.
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You don’t have to abandon ambition or stop having dreams. But we should be a little kinder to ourselves about how we get there. We set ourselves up for unnecessary disappointment by putting too much emphasis on a future we can’t possibly predict.

And perhaps most importantly, when we attach our happiness to achieving a particular future, we risk being disappointed with the present. Maybe instead of asking ourselves where we want to be in five years, we should ask ourselves what would make us happy today. Today is what really matters.

We can move forward with purpose without needing to map out every step of the journey.

Now, doesn’t that sound like a more reasonable plan?

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entertainment

Tosca: A Story of Passion, Power and Betrayal

I was delighted to receive an invitation to this Vancouver production of Tosca, which opened last Saturday at the Queen Elizabeth Theatre.

Vancouver Opera’s 2026 production of Tosca. Photos by Emily Cooper.

Some stories never lose their power to captivate us, and Tosca is certainly one of them. Filled with passion, political intrigue, love and betrayal, this celebrated opera explores what happens when matters of the heart collide with the forces of power – with devastating consequences.

Set in the turbulent streets of 1800s Rome (ahhh, Rome—I was just there), the story unfolds against a backdrop of political upheaval and fear. At its centre is Floria Tosca, a fiery opera singer whose love for the revolutionary artist Mario Cavaradossi draws her into a dangerous encounter with Baron Scarpia, the ruthless chief of police.

Far more than a love story, Tosca is a tale of obsession, courage and the terrible choices people face when love becomes entangled with power. In a world where trust is fragile and the consequences of a single decision can be irreversible, the stakes could hardly be higher.

Gregory Dahl as Baron Scarpia and Joyce El-Khoury as Floria Tosca in Vancouver Opera’s 2026 production of Tosca. Photo by Emily Cooper.

Although set more than two centuries ago, Tosca remains strikingly relevant. The struggle between individual freedom and authority, and the lengths people will go to protect those they love, are as compelling today as ever.

Perhaps that is the enduring appeal of opera: its ability to bring together the full spectrum of human emotion – love, jealousy, fear, hope and desperation – and transform an intimate personal struggle into something sweeping and unforgettable.

For anyone drawn to an evening of classic opera filled with drama, intensity and emotional depth, Tosca remains a powerful story that reminds us just how far we might go for love.

Tosca

Composed by Giacomo Puccini Libretto by Luigi Illica and Giuseppe Giacosa. Premiered 1900 in Rome Sung in Italian with English Projected Titles. DATES October 24 – November 1, 2026

RUNNING TIME Approximately 2 hours and 20 minutes, including one 25-minute intermission.

For tickets: https://www.vancouveropera.ca/whats-on/tosca/

STYLE

Roxy Road

Who says winter can’t be glamorous?

Winter is fast approaching, so if you’re in the market for a luxurious, ethical and oh-so-chic faux fur jacket, bomber, parka or stunning full-length coat to keep you warm while looking fabulous, look no further!

I’m sharing the website of my friend Victoria, whose collection of statement-making faux fur pieces is definitely worth a look. Her website Roxy Road, is named after her beloved dog, Roxy, and she tells me the site is still a work in progress.

Even better? The prices are reasonable and listed in Canadian dollars. What’s not to love?

Victoria and Roxy – the inspiration behind Roxy Road. And that fabulous white coat? It’s a real conversation starter!

These are not wallflowers of winter coats. They’re statement pieces!

Victoria tells me that whenever she wears her white faux fur coat, she gets loads of compliments, with women stopping to ask where they can find one of their own. Well, ladies, now you know!

Take a peek at the collection and see if something catches your eye. Winter is the perfect excuse to add a little glamour to your wardrobe.

Dare to be fearless in faux fur!

And if you really want to make a statement there’s always….

To purchase and to view more styles click link below:

https://roxyroad.ca/collections/fearless-in-faux

You’re welcome!

STYLE

Downtown Betty – Soft Goods

Natural fibres, Vancouver-made style and a whole lot of comfort.

What a pleasant surprise to discover this clothing studio the other day! Located on West 4th Avenue at the corner of Bayswater, Downtown Betty first caught my eye because of the cute bicycle in the window. But step inside and you’ll find an inviting space filled with natural light, an appealing selection of clothing and plenty of temptation to try something on.Think casual cool, ultra-comfortable styles and natural fabrics. Even better, this isn’t just a retail shop – it’s where the clothing is actually made. You can browse the finished pieces hanging in the studio and perhaps discover something you didn’t know you needed.

Downtown Betty is a Vancouver-based, woman-owned fashion company founded by designer Katie Quinn. Katie showed me around and told me about another passion of hers: helping animals in Bali by supporting the spaying and neutering of dogs and cats. It’s a lovely reminder that there’s often much more to a small business owner than the products they create.

Katie wearing one of her creations. I tried on these pants – I love the loose wide-leg fit, pockets and cuffs.

Downtown Betty has been doing things naturally since 2009, designing and making clothing in Vancouver with a focus on comfort, natural fibres and sustainability.

The athleisure collection is designed to move effortlessly from the yoga mat to the street. Goddess dresses, Temple skirts, Dakini tops and more offer relaxed, versatile styles for women who don’t want to choose between comfort and looking good.

And the fabric is a big part of the story.

According to the company, its signature fabric is made from 95% cotton and 5% Lycra, combining breathability with a little stretch. The majority of its fabrics are tested to OEKO-TEX® STANDARD 100, while selected colours and heathered fabrics are made from organic cotton.

As Downtown Betty explains on its website, cotton is breathable, softens with wear and feels wonderfully light against the skin. It’s a simple approach to clothing, and one the company says it has stayed true to for sixteen years.

In a world of fast fashion and ever-changing trends, there’s something appealing about a local studio committed to comfortable, thoughtfully made clothing – pieces you can wear to yoga, to the coffee shop, while running errands or wherever the day takes you.

Her dog Sherdil in the back room where the fitting rooms are.

Worth a look if you’re curious about locally made fashion that puts comfort and natural fibres first.

Shop: https://downtownbetty.com/

Photos on this page: d. king

entertainment

Big Stuff – Arts Club Theatre Company

When Clutter Becomes a Keepsake

Last night, I attended the opening of Big Stuff, a refreshingly different kind of live theatre from seasoned performers Matt Baram and Naomi Snieckus, veterans of Second City and comedy clubs worldwide.

Part improvisation, part audience participation, the show invites us to think about all the stuff we keep – and, more importantly, why we keep it.

Baram and Snieckus, a real-life husband-and-wife team, appear as themselves, surrounded by a collection of clutter they’re trying to make sense of. What stays? What goes? And really, how many people need more than one toaster – especially if they’re not eating bread?

But Big Stuff is about more than decluttering. It asks us to consider the sentimental value we attach to the things we own, both big and small, and why letting go can be so difficult.

Audience members are invited to write down an item – or several – from home that reminds them of someone dear they’ve lost. Baram and Snieckus then draw the cards, ask who wrote each one, and invite them to share a little of the story behind it. I loved how naturally these exchanges unfolded. Some of the items prompted particularly poignant responses, adding a moving layer of humanity to the laughter.

After all, the things we hold on to aren’t always useful, beautiful or even particularly practical. Sometimes, they’re precious because of the people and memories they represent. What one person might see as clutter, another might see as an irreplaceable connection to someone they’ve loved and lost.

Perhaps that’s the bigger question at the heart of Big Stuff: when we hold on to things, are we really holding on to the objects themselves, or to the memories they carry? Maybe the challenge isn’t simply deciding what to keep and what to throw away, but understanding what we’re really holding on to.

Fresh off a sold-out run at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival, where it received the International Fringe Encore Series Edinburgh Prize, Big Stuff arrives at the Arts Club Theatre Company with international acclaim. Following its Vancouver run, the show heads to New York City’s SoHo Playhouse.

Written and created by: Matt Baram and Naomi Snieckus
Directed and co-created by: Kat Sandler

When: October 14–November 1, 2026
Where: Olympic Village Stage at the BMO Theatre Centre

The BMO theatre centre is nice inside. You can get drinks and snacks.

Tickets: https://artsclub.com/shows/2026-2027/big-stuff

Film Reviews

VIFF 2026: I Play Rocky

A rocky start that ended with a Rocky finish!

Photo courtesy of the Vancouver International Film Festival – 2026.

We know the story. We know the outcome. And yet, after watching I Play Rocky, I came away with a renewed appreciation for the man behind one of Hollywood’s most beloved underdog stories.

This was the best feel-good movie I’ve seen in a long, long time. It had everything going for it: heart, soul, determination, and a real-life story that reminds us what can happen when someone refuses to give up on a dream.

The entire audience was clapping at the end. I can’t remember the last time I witnessed that kind of spontaneous reaction – except, perhaps, at the very end of Rocky itself.

The film takes us back to the early struggles of Sylvester Stallone, long before he became a household name. He had written a script he believed in, and he was determined to play the lead himself. Hollywood had other ideas. The odds were stacked against him, but Stallone held firm to his vision, even when taking the easier road might have meant sacrificing the very thing he believed in.

We all love to root for the underdog. But there’s something especially satisfying about watching someone fight not just for a chance at success, but for the right to tell his own story.

Directed by Oscar-winner Peter Farrelly (Green Book), the film stars Anthony Ippolito as Stallone. The resemblance is uncanny – not just in his appearance, but in the way he speaks and carries himself. He brings Stallone to life in a way that makes you forget you’re watching an actor portray someone whose story we think we already know.

And behind every great struggle, there are often people who provide the support needed to keep going. Stallone’s wife, Sasha, played an integral role, offering the kind of support that can make all the difference when a dream seems just out of reach.

What makes this story so uplifting is the reminder that success rarely arrives overnight. Sometimes, it begins with a belief in yourself that nobody else shares.

We already know what became of Rocky. What makes this story worth telling is remembering just how much determination it took to get there.

A Rocky Footnote

As a personal aside, I had the pleasure of meeting Carol Connors at the Palm Springs International Film Festival last January. She earned an Oscar nomination for Best Original Song for co-writing “Gonna Fly Now,” the iconic theme from Rocky. Her documentary, Elvis, Rocky & Me: The Carol Connors Story, received a Best of Fest recognition at the festival.

Talk about a personal connection to movie history!

The festival has now come to a close, but you can check out the VIFF movie lineup all year long here:

https://viff.org

Film Reviews

VIFF 2026: Nuisance Bear

There are very few places left in the world where you can experience wild animals in their true, uninterrupted environments. We think of African safaris, trekking to see gorillas in Eastern Africa, exploring The Galápagos Islands, or viewing massive penguin colonies in Antarctica.

Photo courtesy of Vancouver International Film Festival

Right alongside those bucket-list destinations is polar bear watching in Churchill, Manitoba – the self-proclaimed “Polar Bear Capital of the World”.

But the feature documentary Nuisance Bear turns that entire tourism spectacle on its head. Expanding on their acclaimed 2021 short film, Canadian filmmakers Gabriela Osio Vanden and Jack Weisman track the polar bear population as it intersects with both high-rolling tourists and the Inuit community of Arviat. The film shows how these amazing, apex predators are increasingly encroaching on human habitat, coming dangerously close to town lines.

Through their lenses, we track a polar bear navigating a chaotic gauntlet of tourists, trucks, sirens, traps, wildlife officers, hunters, and forced relocation. The journey is given profound weight and depth through guidance and narration from the late Inuit elder Mike Tunalaaq Gibbons.

In 2018, Gibbons’ son, Aaron, was tragically killed by a polar bear while protecting his children. Though speaking about the predators became deeply difficult for the elder, his reflections in the film offer a moving reminder that the fault does not lie with the bear, but with a fractured ecosystem.

At this stage in time, watching this documentary is probably the closest I’ll ever personally come to seeing polar bears in the wild – and honestly, I’m okay with that.

Tour operators in Churchill use custom-built, massively oversized vehicles known globally as Tundra Buggies or Arctic Crawlers. Built with massive, five-foot-tall rubber tires to safely traverse the fragile subarctic terrain when the bears gather along the coast of Hudson Bay every October and November, these vehicles are the only way to see them. It’s not an intimate operation, it’s a heavily managed interaction.

As the VIFF program guide beautifully summarizes:

Winner of the highly coveted Sundance Grand Jury Prize for Documentary, this is a formally daring work about spectacle, survival, and the violence hidden inside the word ‘nuisance’.

We’re left contemplating what happens when the mascot becomes a problem?”

The festival has now come to a close, but you can check out the VIFF movie lineup all year long here:

https://viff.org

Film Reviews

VIFF 2026: “Whatcha Want”

I went to see Mina Shum’s latest feature film, Whatcha Want, mostly because she is an acclaimed local writer-director (Meditation Park, VIFF 2017) and the film was shot right here in Vancouver and Victoria. I had a feeling it would be good, and I was absolutely right!

The best way to describe it is a high-energy mix of Crazy Rich Asians meets Flashdance. But overall, it’s a joyful movie of liberation.

Beneath the dazzling surface, the story has many layers. It brings poignant Asian cultural awareness to the forefront through the main character, Yin Tse (played beautifully by Bridgerton’s Isabella Wei). Yin comes to Vancouver from Hong Kong on a temporary visa as a new “trophy wife,” dealing with an isolating marriage and an absentee husband who is back home handling business… and a bit of unfaithful “monkey business” on the side.

Yin’s only friend in Vancouver is a slightly older woman in the exact same boat. She has grown used to her husband’s constant absence and views the luxury lifestyle it provides as a necessary tradeoff. Whether that tradeoff is good or bad depends entirely on how you look at it, but it appears to be the accepted norm for many women in this circle. It requires giving up a part of yourself to please someone else – something I think most of us have done at some point in our lives. As Yin’s mother perfectly puts it in the film: “I always liked mushrooms – but your dad hated them, so I never ate them again.”

One day, feeling lonely and looking out over her balcony, Yin notices a vibrant group of dancers practicing in the building next door. Intrigued, she wanders over to find connection by rekindling her childhood passion for dance. The dynamic blend of hip-hop, breakdancing, and acrobatics is mesmerizing (in fact, one of the dancers in the cast is a real-life Canadian Olympic champion from the Paris games!).

A chance encounter brings Yin under the wing of dance studio owner Penny (Helen Dang), who helps her train for an elite audition. But when her wealthy husband (Hugh Tran) returns from Hong Kong, Yin is forced to make a definitive choice: stick with material comfort, or claim the freedom to be herself.

Anchored by screen legends Ming-Na Wen (Mulan) and Tzi Ma (The Farewell), who help provide comic relief, this film tackles heavy themes of isolation and marital expectations within the Asian diaspora while the incredibly charismatic cast of dancers keeps the energy electric.

Ultimately, Whatcha Want is a beautiful tribute to the joy of self-expression through movement. It leaves you reflecting on a profound question: What are you truly willing to give up for a lifestyle, or for someone else? It is an earnest, joyful ride that will have your heart doing backflips.

For more VIFF please visit:

https://viff.org

Film Reviews

VIFF 2026: Lady

The main reason I chose this movie was not so much for the story, but because it was filmed in Lagos, Nigeria.

However, the story itself turned out to be quite pulsating – following a group of women doing what they must to survive in a chaotic landscape, and one young woman in particular whose dream is to escape to a place that offers more freedom, away from the noise, business, and relentless traffic.

Directed by Olive Nwosu, Lady is a vibrant feature debut that follows Ujah (Jessica Gabriel), a struggling female taxi driver in Lagos. She takes on a side job chauffeuring a group of sex workers, including her estranged childhood best friend who returns after a five-year absence – through the city’s nocturnal underworld.

This movie grabbed my attention because my late husband spent years, off and on, travelling to Lagos to do telecommunications feasibility for cell phone systems. No matter where you go in the world, rich or poor, everyone now has a cell phone. It’s the one common denominator for all of us.

Overall, I found the story frustrating and heartbreaking. The hardships some of these women face just to make ends meet are daunting, to say the least, but I deeply admired the lead character’s dignity and sense of self. The film leaves you restless, heartbroken, and intensely aware of the vast miles between comfortable detachment and daily survival.

My husband always talked about Lagos as a city of endless static and relentless momentum – a place that moves too fast to look back. Olive Nwosu’s camera manages to slow it down just enough to see the human beings caught in the current. I left the theater wishing life were kinder to Ujah and her friends, deeply grateful that a film had given a vivid voice to a landscape I only ever knew through secondhand stories.

Lady isn’t an easy ride, but like the brave women in the front seat, it refuses to be looked past.

For more VIFF please visit:

https://viff.org/

Food + Drink

veda

A Moment, a Mood, and a Meal Series.

A new restaurant opened up in my neighborhood very recently, taking over a spot that has been sitting empty for quite some time. Walking by with a friend a few weeks ago, I was thrilled to discover that its focus is a completely different style of Indian food than what I am normally used to: South Indian cuisine.

Intrigued, we stepped inside. The space is a cozy, intimate 20-seat neighborhood joint inspired by the vibrant cafés and homes of South India. We met the owner, who incredibly warmly welcomed us and invited us to try a generous tasting of several unique-to-us dishes.

Beautifully golden-brown, crispy dosas served with traditional sambar and a duo of vibrant chutneys.

Tearing into a dosa to reveal the aromatic, perfectly spiced potato masala filling and another with chicken – hidden inside.

It was the perfect excuse to dive headfirst into the rich, aromatic world of South Indian culinary traditions.

Exploring the Vibrant World of South Indian Cuisine

For those who might be new to this side of the Indian subcontinent, South Indian cuisine offers a completely different experience from the heavy, cream-based North Indian dishes many of us grew up eating. Instead of rich, dairy-heavy gravies, the South offers a masterclass in using rice, lentils, coastal ingredients, and brilliant fermentation techniques to create bright, complex flavor profiles.

The Foundation: Rice, Lentils, and Fermentation

One of the most remarkable aspects of South Indian cooking is its reliance on simple pantry staples like rice and black lentils (urad dal). Through the magic of slow fermentation, these two humble ingredients are transformed into some of the region’s most iconic staples:

Idli: Pillow-soft, fluffy steamed rice cakes that act as the perfect canvas for soaking up savory stews.
Dosa: Thin, lacy, and incredibly crispy crepes that can be enjoyed plain or stuffed with a spiced potato mash (masala dosa).

Because these traditional batters are naturally fermented, the food carries a subtle, signature tanginess and a light texture that feels deeply comforting.

More Than Just Curries: Sambar and Chutneys

Instead of thick tomato-and-onion gravies, South Indian meals are heavily centered around Sambar – a wonderfully complex, tangy lentil and vegetable stew infused with a special spice blend. It is traditionally served alongside a variety of fresh, vibrant chutneys, with coconut, tomato, and mint being local favorites.

Rice cakes with lentil stew – the one that is donut shaped was deep fried. The other has a crispy rice center.

Whether you are enjoying a comforting bowl of Bisi Bele Bhath (a spicy, sweet-and-sour rice and lentil dish) or tearing off a piece of a crispy dosa, South Indian cuisine is a beautiful reminder of how complex, layered flavors can be built from simple, wholesome ingredients.

Welcome to the Neighborhood

Refreshing, beautifully layered specialty mocktails garnished with dehydrated lime—perfect for a cozy neighborhood evening.

It is wonderful to see this space filled with such warm hospitality and unique flavors. If you are looking to explore these culinary traditions for yourself – or perhaps sit down for a traditional South Indian filter coffee after a beach stroll – you can find them right in the heart of the community.

I had to try a traditional mango lassi for dessert.

Veda is located at 2209 W 1st Ave., just a couple of blocks up from Kitsilano Beach. You can check out their hours and full regional menu on the Veda Kitsilano Website.