Feel-good Friday: Fire

Some women are lost in the fire.  Some women are built from it.

         Photo: Lisa King   Quote: Charles Bukowski

Have a Wonderful Weekend!

Happy International Women’s Day

I want to acknowledge this special day in celebration of all womenthe better half of the world’s population.

Having said that, there are a bunch of women in my life worth paying special tribute to. They’re women of strength, courage, intelligence, integrity, creativity, capability, beauty, talent, style and fun with a capital “F”… as shown here in photos of me with them (and a few without me).  But one thing is for sure… they’re all simply fabulous!

with Alex, Elizabeth & Ramona at The Tropicale, Palm Springs.
with Tammy & Kathy at a fashion show in Palm Springs.
with Rosa at Sandbar, Vancouver.
with Lisa (my sister) at home.
with Renée (my ex sister-in-law) at Pinky’s (now Romer Burger), Vancouver.
with Lynda on Robson (watching Pride Parade from her balcony).
with Lisa
with Susanne at The Naam, Vancouver.
with Margeaux at the Planetarium, Vancouver.
with Ryoko & Margeaux in Castlegar, B.C.  – at Margeaux’s beautiful resort-style  home overlooking the river.
Two Tramps.  With Tamara (or; Tramara) on the Tram, Palm Springs.  I know, it’s a silly one.
with Natalia in Palm Springs.
With Natalia at Lulu’s, Palm Springs.
with Jenni at Roadhouse, Palm Springs.
with Stacey & Jen at a restaurant on Main St., Vancouver.
with Ann Marie at the Revel Room in Gastown, Vancouver.
with Lynn in Palm Springs.
with cousin Liz in a tree – Vancouver.
with Joanne on Galiano Island, B.C.
Rosa & Louise (Louise’s birthday at Colleen’s).
with Tracy at Asia SF, Palm Springs.
with Tamara & Cassandra on a blueberry farm in Richmond, B.C.  (The picking was plentiful).
with Candy, Claudia, Tracy & Rhonda at the Riviera (now Margaritaville), Palm Springs.
chilling with London-based Masako at Colleen’s.
with Masako at a Boutique Hotel, Vancouver.
Celeste, Kiki & Candy at “A Curated Collection” – Palm Springs.
Joselle (had just met her but nonetheless) at “A Curated Collection” – Palm Springs.
Donna & Llana (two of the most capable women I know) in Palm Springs.
Angie (in middle) with Jackie (L) and Colleen (R).
with Anik, Tamara & Jolie at The Victor, Vancouver.

This year’s IWD theme is #ChooseToChallenge, with the following shared on the official #IWD2021 website: “A challenged world is an alert world. Individually, we’re all responsible for our own thoughts and actions – all day, every day. We can all choose to challenge and call out gender bias and inequality.

with Tammy (Valley of the Dolls) in Palm Springs.

Here’s to ALL OF US making Herstory!

Tracy & Candy at Asia SF, Palm Springs – the last outing before Covid shutdown.

Below are two friends gone way too soon.  I miss them both terribly.

with Jackie and her cheshire grin in Gastown, Vancouver.
with Colleen at the Sailing Club, Vancouver.

ps: If you’re my friend and you don’t see your photo here it’s only because I don’t have one (if so, what a shame).  Please send me one for next time – with or without me in the photo (but preferably with).

 

 

At Kits Days on 4th – with Colleen, Robyn & Stacey.  Always a fun meet-up with music & shopping and friendship.

Feel-good Friday: joyful meditations

A friend of mine gifted me with this uplifting and inspiring little guidebook.

 

This daily companion is a kind of spa for the soul.

One that tends to motivate women in a mindful manner to care more deeply for themselves and to face life’s challenges with courage and joy.   The book is a practical resource for accessing inner wisdom, enhancing self-esteem, overcoming sorrow, and deepening relationships.  I look forward to reading excerpts on a daily basis.

Each of the 150 meditations in this volume begins with an inspirational quote, followed by a thoughtful meditation, and concluded with an affirmation. These meditations provide the opportunity to contemplate a wide range of topics, including:

Developing awareness
Letting go
Believing in your dreams
Living in the now
Finding your true purpose
Practicing kindness
Being optimistic
Trusting the universe
Appreciating life’s blessings

Meditation practice isn’t about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better, it’s about befriending who we are. Ani Pema Chodron

To order:

What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow. Our life is the creation of our mind– Buddha

Feel-good Friday: Outlook

We don’t need a life coach or shrink to tell us what we already know – that our attitude and outlook on life says a lot about who we are.  

I keep witnessing unpleasant remarks on Facebook from people I’ve otherwise admired. Even quotes that are neither witty, profound or significant in any way.  Just plain offensive and meaningless.  Questionable at best – although others seen to find them funny.  Disappointing.  Has our human race taken a dive?

Positive Attitude = good

Negative Attitude = bad

It’s that simple.  However, it’s not easy to maintain a positive attitude at all times in our present climate of overwhelming discord over health and politics – both of which have a profound effect on our lives.

For our personal sanity at this time in history it makes sense to pay attention to what’s going on while maintaining as positive an attitude as possible.

The idea of Positive Thinking is almost a cliche in the personal development world that can be polarizing. Some people shy away from it, believing it to be pretentious, while others swear by it as if it was some sort of magic pill.

My friend Michael (one of the two smartest people I know in the whole world) has this to say about positivity: it can mean all, or some of the following: 1) Optimism 2) Proactivity 3) Constructiveness 4) Resilience 5) Hopefulness 6) Confidence

If any, or all of these resonate with you, go for it! 

When we consciously cultivate positivity in our minds, we think we can get through anything.  And it’s been scientifically proven to improve your work life, physical and mental health, and relationships.

A University of Michigan study, led by psychology professor Barbara Fredrickson, explored the importance of positive thinking and emotions on our experience of:

  • joy,
  • interest,
  • contentment, and
  • love.

These four positive emotions have a number of ripple effects on our behavior.

Fredrickson had this to say:

Joy sparks the urge to play, interest sparks the urge to explore, contentment sparks the urge to savour and integrate, and love sparks a recurring cycle of each of these urges within safe, close relationships.

By adopting a positive mindset, our resilience increases and with it our capacity to explore the world, while feeling confident and secure. Negative thoughts and emotions, on the other hand, can skew our perspective and in the long-term, damage our self-esteem.

One way to get into the habit of thinking positively is to peak into the minds of other positive people’s quotes by reading what they’ve said or written.

Hope you enjoy the quotes I found here.

Gratitude is the seed that sparks Positivity.

It’s a funny thing about life, once you begin to take note of the things you are grateful for, you begin to lose sight of the things that you lack.”– Germany Kent

Kent went on to say…”Gratitude is a key tenet in all major philosophies, religions, and schools of thought. That’s because gratitude is a foundation of positive thinking. We only have a limited amount of focus, so when you are able to be appreciative of what you have, your brain is unable to give life and energy to thoughts about what you don’t have. Seeing events in your life as gifts allow you to perceive how they may help you grow and become a better person, and the application of this attitude during tough times is the hallmark of resilience.”

The most important thing you will ever wear is your attitude.”– Jeff Moore

 

Feel-good Friday: Picnic in the Park

Some say life is no picnic.  I say make a picnic part of your life.

Summer isn’t complete without one.

Essentials: blanket, wicker picnic basket, sandwiches, cherries, cider, salad….dog.

A little history on the subject:

The word “picnic” comes from the French language where it became a popular pastime in France after the Revolution (1789) when royal parks became open to the public for the first time.

The term derives from pique-nique, used to describe a group of people dining in a restaurant who brought their own wine. The concept of a picnic therefore had the connotation of a meal to which everyone contributed something.

Picnic may be based on the verb piquer which means ‘pick’ or ‘peck’ with the rhyming nique meaning “thing of little importance”, or on “pique un niche” meaning “pick a place”, an isolated spot where family or friends could enjoy a meal together.

During the Victorian Age picnics were ways for people to escape the restrictions of etiquette and formality and offered the rare opportunity for young men and women to spend time together in the open air. They could also be quite elaborate since a picnic for twenty people might feature sandwiches, fruit, a selection of cheeses, and a variety of baked food!

The modern-day picnic is much less complicated.

Have a Wonderful Weekend!

 

 

Monday Mood: my hood

It’s a Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood…

Love, Peace, Wisdom, Happiness, Courage, Tranquility.  Everything we need for a Happy Life.

Love breathes life into the heart and brings grace to the soul.

To being Peace to the Earth, strive to make your own life peaceful.

Wisdom: knowledge, intuition and experience combine to guide us in thought and deed.

Happiness: when one’s spiritual needs are met by an untroubled inner life. Happiness comes when your work and words are of benefit to yourself and others.

Courage: not the absence of fear or despair, but the strength to conquer them.

Tranquility: the peace that comes when energies are in harmony, relationships are in balance.

Photos: d. king

Feel GOOD Friday – Passover – Easter

It’s finally here!  Very Good Friday indeed.  Not only a holiday, but the day my 14 day mandatory stay-at-home Covid-19 quarantine finally ends.  Of course I’ll still stand my distance when outside, but I can now go for long walks in fresh air. I promise never to take walking along the beach right outside my home for granted ever again.

Photo: Tamara Gauthier

The past two weeks went pretty smoothly with my two dogs and my boyfriend, all things considered.  We kept quarantine quarreling to a minimum although I cannot pretend we didn’t have a few trying moments.  Shades of a shot-gun wedding! 

For dog walking a good friend of mine who lives around the corner walked Layla as she requires more exercise than Jia Jia.  Then she sent me the pictures to prove how much fun they had while I was holed up at home.

 Actually to tell you the truth, it wasn’t too bad.  Fourteen days goes by fast  even when you don’t have any plans. I started getting used to not having any reason to get out of my Pajamas.  I started cooking again and getting creative with ingredients. Some of the things I made turned out pretty good considering the ingredient substitutes for some of the meals.  Things like using Chinese vegetables for making Mexican, etc. Using vegetable rice to make Risotto and smooth peanut butter to make peanut butter cookies. Crunchy is much better.  I cooked a lot and the not having to go out to get groceries myself meant having to be more creative with what I already had in the house.

Luckily the weather has been mostly sunny, so we’ve been able to get some natural Vitamin D by sitting on the upstairs deck.  For exercise, moving plants and furniture around have helped to a degree. 

But the icing on the cake was taking part in an on-line choreographed dance class from The Dance Lab (a London, England based dance studio) via Zoom.  Courtesy of my good friend Masako who lives in London.  The lesson was 8:30 pm London time, 12:30 pm Vancouver time.   

I joined Brazilian Samba lesson which was lots of fun.  Our instructor Brian Dibnah was excellent. 

Brian Dibnah. Nice to look at. Even if you can’t follow you can look at him for one hour.

 Brian has a good sense of humour too.  He went slowly at first with the moves while we watched and then tried to copy bit by bit until it was formed into a dance routine set to music. We could see the other dancers on the split screen gallery view of our computers. Little dancing icons.

Brings social distancing to a new level.  We were social distance dancing. 

Here’s a sneak peek from The Dance Lab Facebook Page.  (btw, the Canadian he mentions; that’s me!). https://www.facebook.com/thedancelabputney/

If anyone is interested here’s the link to join.  You can pay via PayPal.

http://www.thedancelabputney.com/bookings/

Have a Happy Passover & Easter! 

Monday Mood: March

Let the magic of March begin

It’s in the air! There’s something about the approaching of Spring that makes us want to make a fresh start.  Flowers are beginning to bloom, weather will be warmer, our wardrobe will become lighter and brighter, and we have the urge to clean house. To lighten our load.

Everyone needs a little inspiration now and then! Whether its just to get through the day or to change your outlook in life, make a big decision or start something new.

If you want something you never had, you have to do something you’ve never done. – Thomas Jefferson

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. –  Mark Twain

I’m not sure who said this one but it’s so true: Learn to appreciate what you have before time makes you appreciate what you had.

Have a most amazing month!

 

Climate Change – Colder Weather Wear

Coveting Cover Ups: from Peacoats to Parkas and all kinds of cozy sweaters.  Here are some chic and practical style options to consider for this time of year:

Jlo often chooses a fur lined parka when making her casual runs.  Wise fashion choice.

Try Houndstooth, Animal print, Max Mara’s Teddy Coat and/or Faux Fur if you don’t have anything like this in your wardrobe.  It will make going out in the cold more fun.

Do you have a favorite style?