It’s a matter of Mind over Manners but if you’re rusty you can always brush up and order the book of Golden Rules from the world’s most glamorous zip code.
There is really a book for everything. If you’re going to do it – do it right! Maybe you can find this in the “self-help” section of your local bookstore – if you still have a bookstore that is. I think proper manners are getting to be almost obsolete – what a shame because even a simple please or thank you can make all the difference. But a book on the subject? Which must mean that parents (shame especially on you 90210 parents!) are not taking the time to properly teach their kids.
Author Lisa Gaché (the modern Miss Manners) admits to not writing her very first thank-you note until she was married. She is also the founder and C.E.O. of the book title’s Beverly Hills Manners, a decorum school she opened nearly seven years ago. (Can this be the American version of the Swiss finishing school?) “That was the household I grew up in. Manners, as I later learned, were not dusty rules but rather tools that help us feel more comfortable and help put each other at ease.”
Gaché started with a concierge service in Los Angeles; while doing that, she realized there was an etiquette vacuum that needed to be filled. Also, as the mother of two daughters, she wanted to instill in her children the confidence that comes with having good manners.
She received official certification from the Protocol School of Washington, in D.C. Her Beverly Hills Manners classes and private coaching include everything from children’s table manners to red-carpet protocol, and she has students as young as five years old.
Topping her list: dressing for the occasion and table manners. “We live in an extremely casual society, where Lululemon and Havaianas are the uniform of choice. So I am a big proponent of dressing. When you take the time to put yourself together, it can color your world in a way that sets the tone for the day.” And with respect to dining etiquette: “There is a reason for tablecloths and utilizing real cloth napkins – not every night, but I think at least once a week – so that children can see what it’s like to sit still and how to properly cut their food and make pleasant conversation.”
One golden rule that costs no money and almost no effort that you can do right now – “Smile!”
Taken from Krista Smith’s article in the March issue of “Vanity Fair Magazine.”