Feel-good Friday: in my dreams

I had a dream. A very vivid albeit absurd dream last week.  Or was it?

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I told a few people about my dream and they suggested I blog about it because as it turns out, it contains quite a powerful message.  And I swear that I was not aware that apparently it could be a thing because Dennis Rodman and a few others had already done what I’d dreamt about.  You know you can’t even have a simple dream now without someone else having done it before you.

Anyway, in my dream I was getting married again….but to myself.  I told you it was strange.  I had a white dress, flowers in my hair and glass of wine in my hand (naturally) but no man in sight.  It appeared pretty clear that there was only me, myself and I.  And I was happy (key word).  Then I woke up.  Then I could not get back to sleep.  I pondered about the strange dream and what it meant. And it feels weird to even try to explain it here.

Now your first reaction could likely be how very sad and lonely she must feel and I would think the same thing had it not been for the feeling of happiness inside the dream.  Don’t get me wrong – I’m nowhere near being over the sadness of losing Don and might never get over it, but this gives me a little boost of hope in a powerful message.  Because what I believe (rather choose to believe) what the message is really saying is that through grief we still can find happiness.  Without going too deep, happiness within ourselves.

But aside from Dennis Rodman who I’m sure is extremely happy, I found out that a woman named Linda Baker was apparently the first person to marry herself in the US back in 1993 as a celebration of her 40th birthday.  And then I remembered the episode of Sex and the City when Carrie Bradshaw gave herself a wedding shower for one.  Apparently Sologamy, the act of marrying yourself, is on the rise across the globe. ???

I think that’s a great choice.

And I didn’t dream that up.

But it didn’t take a fortune teller or psychic to tell me that my dream, in a nutshell was making a commitment to myself, fully.

That there is no man, job or circumstance to make me more whole – because I already am (okay more likely I’m trying to get there).  I might be missing what I had, but I’m all I really need. I will be with me in sickness (god forbid) and in health. Besides, I will never leave myself.  I’m stuck with me for better or for worse so better to make the most of it…meaning, me (as it).  OMG… what a clear message.  Because if you really think about it….another person cannot fully complete you.  You have to be together and fairly complete yourself because you cannot expect another person to do that for you – it’s too much to ask.  So to make a relationship work you have to have a solid foundation first and foremost.

And I was thinking…what kind of person would I like to attract? Okay; truth be told, someone kind of like me.  AHA moment. Someone solid, with a sense of humor, who likes to cook or at least enjoy food,  a non-smoker, non-drinker (I mean someone not excessive), animal and shoe lover, likes to go for walks and enjoy travel.  Is that too much to ask?  Maybe. So I will be all I needat least for now.  It’s nice to dream right?

Thoughts?

 

 

 

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Summer style: Sac du marché

Off to the Market…or not.

Perhaps the beach instead, or an overnight stay with a friend.  In any case the oversize straw bag is an essential to have in your collection. 

I think you need at least one good market bag even if you don’t plan to go to the market.

I’ve always loved the original plain French straw tote with leather handle.  Roomy enough for carrying groceries and fresh flowers.  They always seem to have some in stock at L’Occitane.

Although the colorful and embellished bags are nice too.

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Basket bags embellished with pom poms and tassels by The Happy Beach. (Photography: The Happy Beach via Instagram)

So many choices.  Not enough room to store them all.  They all scream SUMMER IS HERE.

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Do you have a favorite?

 

 

 

Dressing up for lunch or dinner

with Creamy Carrot Ginger Salad Dressing

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AHA – a healthy alternative to bought salad dressing

Easy to make and soooo delicious!  I think you’re going to LOVE this one.  Plus it looks pretty, especially in a pineapple bowl.

INGREDIENTS

  1. ⅓ cup extra-virgin olive oil.
  2. ⅓ cup rice vinegar.
  3. 2 large carrots, peeled and roughly chopped (about ⅔ cup)
  4. 2 tablespoons peeled and roughly chopped fresh ginger.
  5. 2 tablespoons lime juice.
  6. 1 tablespoon plus 1 teaspoon honey.
  7. 1 ½ teaspoons toasted sesame oil.
  8. ¼ teaspoon salt, more to taste.

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INSTRUCTIONS

In a blender (I use Vitamix), combine all of the salad dressing ingredients as listed. Bend until completely smooth. Taste, and add additional salt if the dressing doesn’t make your eyes light up. It should have some zing to it but you can always blend in a bit more honey if need be.

Serve over greens and add toasted sesame seeds (optional) to top it off and some shaved carrot.  TIP: you can have it as a main course if you toss in some cooked salmon or chicken.

Adapted from Love Real Food cookbook

Enjoy

 

 

 

Happy 4th of July

Some Quotes:

If our Founding Fathers wanted us to care about the rest of the world, they wouldn’t have declared their independence from it — Stephen Colbert

All people are born alike. Except Republicans and Democrats – Groucho Marx

Ninety eight percent of the adults in this country are decent, hardworking, honest Americans. It’s the other lousy two percent that get all the publicity. But then, we elected them – Lily Tomlin

I see Americans of every party, every background, every faith who believe that we are stronger together: black, white, Latino, Asian, Native American; young, old; gay, straight; men, women, folks with disabilities, all pledging allegiance under the same proud flag to this big, bold country that we love. That’s what I see. That’s the America I know! – Barack Obama

 

 

 

 

Happy Birthday Canada

Still young at 151!Some quotes past and present:

In a world darkened by ethnic conflicts that tear nations apart, Canada stands as a model of how people of different cultures can live and work together in peace, prosperity, and mutual respect – Bill Clinton

When I’m in Canada, I feel this is what the world should be like – Jane Fonda

Geography has made us neighbors. History has made us friends. Economics has made us partners. And necessity has made us allies. Those whom nature hath so joined together, let no man put asunder. What unites us is far greater than what divides us – John F. Kennedy, 1961

When I was crossing the border into Canada, they asked if I had any firearms with me. I said, Well, what do you need? – Stephen Wright

Canadians are generally indistinguishable from Americans, and the surest way of telling the two apart is to make the observation to a Canadian– Richard Staines

Canada has never been a melting-pot; more like a tossed salad – Arnold Edinborough

Your majesty, I thank you from the bottom of my heart, and Madame Houde thanks you from her bottom too
– Montreal Mayor Camillien Houde, in 1939 to King George VI

 

Food: Cravings

Simple. Savory. Satisfying.

You need only a few key ingredients to whip something up in a pinch.

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Photo: d. king 1)penne 2)scrambled eggs

These simple worthy recipes for breakfast lunch and/or dinner use only three (or four) savory ingredients – an old standby of sour cream, chives and bacon no less.  On their own they’re pretty dull, but collectively they add a powerful punch to some dishes.  Something definitely to consider but maybe not to incorporate into a steady diet.

I can’t remember the last time I went out and actually bought bacon in a store because I usually reserve bacon as a side for occasional Sunday brunch.  However I was cross border shopping and ended up buying a box of uncured fully-cooked apple smoked bacon at Trader Joe’s.  I don’t know; just had a craving. And I hate frying up bacon because of all the rendered fat and this one only needed a few seconds in a microwave or frypan.  The problem is, then you have to use it up in a  relatively short time span.

For a few days I made the most delicious BLT sandwiches, but I switched the lettuce for avocado so it became a BAT instead.  So yummy with beefsteak tomatoes, good bread and mayo.

I probably won’t eat bacon for a while now, but if you have a craving as I did, here are a few easy ideas to help use it up. With sour cream and chives of course.

Breakfast Bourdain style:

Anthony Bourdain’s Scrambled Eggs

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Cook time: 10 mins Total time: 10 mins Serves: 2 servings

Here chopped bacon is fried until crisp.  Eggs are whisked and added to pan (sans milk or water). When eggs are finished cooking, a dollop of sour cream is stirred into the eggs, along with chopped chives or green onions.  It works and tastes incredibly good.

INGREDIENTS

  • 1/2 cup sliced bacon (about 2 slices of thick-cut or more depending)
  • 4 eggs, whisked
  • salt & pepper
  • 2 Tbsp chopped chives
  • 2 Tbsp sour cream

INSTRUCTIONS

  1. Heat a medium or large pan (nonstick if you have it) over medium-high heat.
  2. Add bacon to pan and cook, stirring frequently, until bacon is crispy, about 4-5 minutes (if using regular).
  3. Lower heat and drain some of the bacon fat.
  4. Add eggs to pan, stirring constantly, and when set, remove from heat.
  5. Stir in sour cream, chives and season with salt & pepper to taste.

Lunch: Penne pasta with sour cream, bacon and chives 

INGREDIENTS for two (or four as a side)

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  • 8 ounces short pasta (penne, ziti, etc)
  • 6 slices bacon, chopped and cooked until crispy
  • 1/2 stick butter at room temperature
  • 1 cup sour cream at room temperature
  • Chives, chopped

INSTRUCTIONS

  1. Cook pasta according to package directions and drain. Return to the hot pasta pot.
  2. Put the pot on the lowest heat setting on your stove and stir in butter and sour cream. Stir until both are melted and combined into the pasta.
  3. Stir in chives and cooked bacon.
  4. Serve at once.

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Dinner: Baked Potato

Whatever you’re having with a side of baked potato.  Tell me you don’t need any instructions on this. OR; even better: just a fully-loaded baked potato with added stuff like broccoli and cheese.  I know you want to!

We all have to satisfy our cravings.  Okay; I’m done!