I had a dream. A very vivid albeit absurd dream last week. Or was it?
I told a few people about my dream and they suggested I blog about it because as it turns out, it contains quite a powerful message. And I swear that I was not aware that apparently it could be a thing because Dennis Rodman and a few others had already done what I’d dreamt about. You know you can’t even have a simple dream now without someone else having done it before you.
Anyway, in my dream I was getting married again….but to myself. I told you it was strange. I had a white dress, flowers in my hair and glass of wine in my hand (naturally) but no man in sight. It appeared pretty clear that there was only me, myself and I. And I was happy (key word). Then I woke up. Then I could not get back to sleep. I pondered about the strange dream and what it meant. And it feels weird to even try to explain it here.
Now your first reaction could likely be how very sad and lonely she must feel and I would think the same thing had it not been for the feeling of happiness inside the dream. Don’t get me wrong – I’m nowhere near being over the sadness of losing Don and might never get over it, but this gives me a little boost of hope in a powerful message. Because what I believe (rather choose to believe) what the message is really saying is that through grief we still can find happiness. Without going too deep, happiness within ourselves.
But aside from Dennis Rodman who I’m sure is extremely happy, I found out that a woman named Linda Baker was apparently the first person to marry herself in the US back in 1993 as a celebration of her 40th birthday. And then I remembered the episode of Sex and the City when Carrie Bradshaw gave herself a wedding shower for one. Apparently Sologamy, the act of marrying yourself, is on the rise across the globe. ???
And I didn’t dream that up.
But it didn’t take a fortune teller or psychic to tell me that my dream, in a nutshell was making a commitment to myself, fully.
That there is no man, job or circumstance to make me more whole – because I already am (okay more likely I’m trying to get there). I might be missing what I had, but I’m all I really need. I will be with me in sickness (god forbid) and in health. Besides, I will never leave myself. I’m stuck with me for better or for worse so better to make the most of it…meaning, me (as it). OMG… what a clear message. Because if you really think about it….another person cannot fully complete you. You have to be together and fairly complete yourself because you cannot expect another person to do that for you – it’s too much to ask. So to make a relationship work you have to have a solid foundation first and foremost.
And I was thinking…what kind of person would I like to attract? Okay; truth be told, someone kind of like me. AHA moment. Someone solid, with a sense of humor, who likes to cook or at least enjoy food, a non-smoker, non-drinker (I mean someone not excessive), animal and shoe lover, likes to go for walks and enjoy travel. Is that too much to ask? Maybe. So I will be all I need – at least for now. It’s nice to dream right?