In many cases, happiness is a role people play, and behind the smiling façade, there is a great deal of pain. Depression, breakdowns, and overreactions are common when unhappiness is covered up behind a smiling exterior and brilliant white teeth, when there is denial, sometimes even to one’s self, that there is much unhappiness.
“Just fine” is a role the ego plays more commonly in America than in certain other countries where being and looking miserable is almost the norm and therefore more socially acceptable.
Be aware that what you think, to a large extent, creates the emotions that you feel. See the link between your thinking and your emotions. Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.
Don’t seek happiness. If you seek it, you won’t find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. Happiness is ever elusive, but freedom from unhappiness is attainable now, by facing what is, rather than making stories about it. Unhappiness covers up your natural state of well-being and inner peace, the source of true happiness.
Source: Eckhart Tolle’s “A New Earth” (the Life Purpose Bible).
You know that saying…is the glass half empty or half full? By now we all say “half full” even if we really see is as “half empty.” We know better. But here’s another test. This one by a doctor (Dr. David Rosen to be exact) who specializes in stress management.
Today in terrorist times we should strive to develop the fighter pilot’s philosophy of “a wealth of optimism and a want of fear.” I’m sure they would all pass this test:
So here goes; TAKE A LOOK at these letters:
If you decipher the letters to read “opportunity is now here” you will survive disastrous times. But you flunk the test if you read “opportunity is no where.”
But lighten up, it doesn’t mean your life will end soon……just that you are not as optimistic, or a fighter pilot.
Source for test: W. Gifford-Jones, MD (from the book – What I Learned as a Medical Journalist)
MEN vs WOMEN – some quotes that made me smile:
Buy a ship, name it relation. Now you have a RELATIONSHIP!
“I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury.” – Groucho Marx
“A man can sleep around, no questions asked, but if a woman makes nineteen or twenty mistakes she’s a tramp.” – Joan Rivers
“Seems to me the basic conflict between men and women, sexually, is that men are like firemen. To men, sex is an emergency, and no matter what we’re doing we can be ready in two minutes. Women, on the other hand, are like fire. They’re very exciting, but the conditions have to be exactly right for it to occur.” – Jerry Seinfeld
According to a recent survey, men say the first thing they notice about women is their eyes. And women say the first thing they notice about men is they’re a bunch of liars. – Jay Leno
I want a man who is kind and understanding. Is that too much to ask of a millionaire? – Zsa Zsa Gabor
You’re 40 and he’s 22. Do you have to marry him? Couldn’t you just adopt him? – Ann Stanley, Forty Carats
“God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time.” – Robin Williams
“Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed.” – Albert Einstein
“Music, states of happiness, mythology, faces molded by time, certain twilights and certain places– all these are trying to tell us something, or have told us something we should not have missed, or are about to tell us something; that imminence of a revelation that is not produced is, perhaps, the aesthetic reality.” – Jorge Luis Borges (Argentine poet, essayist, and short-story writer whose works have become classics of 20th-century world literature). When asked about ART.